"Ghana Must Go": A jewel of literary achievement

I'm currently reading "Ghana Must Go" by the incomparable Taiye Selasi.

"He wants her to be satisfied." Selasi writes. " He wants this because she can be. She is a woman who can be satisfied.     She is like no woman he's known.

Or like no woman he's loved.
     He isn't sure he ever knew them, or could, that a man can know a woman in the end. So, the women he's loved. Who knew nothing of satisfaction. Who having forgotten what they wanted promptly wanted more. Not greedy. Never greedy. He'd never call his mother greedy, neither Fola nor his daughters (at least not Taiwo, at least not then). They were doers and thinkers and lovers and seekers and givers, but dreamers, most dangerously of all.
     They were dreamer-women
     Very dangerous women.
     Who looked at the world through their wide dreamer-eyes and saw it not as it was, 'brutal, senseless,' etc., but worse, as it might be or might yet become."

This short passage makes me wonder about what it means to find happiness with someone in a relationship when you are a dreamer. How do you take care of  someone who isn't a dreamer? Do you fight with them to become better than they are? Is that worth all that energy? What if they are happy being with who they are and where they are in their life? Will you only ever be happy with another dreamer? Even then, dreaming with someone else can be exhausting!

Before my current relationship, I was single for the longest time (six or seven years) and was never with anyone for more than a week or so. I always accredited it to my knowing exactly what I wanted in a partner (or more accurately, what I did not want) and all potential partners just not making the cut.

After reading this passage in Selasi's book, I identify a little with what she says.

I self-identify as a dreamer, as defined above: I see the world as it should be and work very hard in an effort to make this vision a reality. I stand so firm in my belief of how things should be that I tend to be too hasty in my dismissal of people who disagree. In the past this has included friends, mentors, family members and potential partners.